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Friday, 30 September 2011

CONDOMS PLEASE...!!!!



Hey there folks...
Today is Friday and I definitely have something special in store for you..!!!
Today.. we have a guest post by one of the most brilliant bloggers in the blogosphere that I have come across so far.

Sagittarius...!!! that's her sun sign but you know that when you see the strong impression she leaves on you once you visit her blog.

A friend...!!! If you thought that she is all work and no play.. you got her wrong because she is one of the most fun loving person I have come across.

Known for speaking her heart out come what may, she doesn't believe nor likes Beating around the bush to tell what she feels..for in her own words " she likes what she does and she does what she likes" and in fact she IS one of the primary reason that inspired me to start my blog..!!

She cried when Sir Sarcasm died.. She had her word when the War broke in the blog world and what makes her stand out is her strong faith in herself . Her blog is called THE BLUNT BLOG and by now you would have guessed it why..!!

Friends, if you haven't visited her blog... waste no second... for you have really missed something.. for its my privilege to have her write the FIRST EVER GUEST POST at THE DEVIL'S WORKSHOP..!!!

LADIES AND GENTLEMEN, BOYS AND GIRLS...
PRESENTING BEFORE YOU.. 
CHINTAN  the blunt blog GUPTA..!!!!!

*round of applause*

With that said...Over to you Chintan :)

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CONDOMS PLEASE

You know you are in good company when you read a mature article such as this. I am someone who is completely against abortion, not that I have the right to take decisions about everyone’s life, but I would love to be able to do so and set few things straight. Those of you, who are regular readers, ah who am I kidding, know I write about strong subjects related to women, men, sex, relationships. Some time back I read about contraceptives and wrote this post. However, today when I read Prashanth’s blog, I thought this needs to be addressed again. Since, I owed a guest post to Prithvi, I thought why not take this subject and mention few of the cases I know of and have a blunt discussion about it?

Abortion, the movies show, our society reflects and China a whole nation surviving on, the very much cruel example of kill-that-unwanted-child. If you are sixteen and pregnant, you better abort, some girls can cope; some cannot, but that itself is a tender age for abortion. I bluntly blame men for this! I do. It’s your fluid that is ejected by you however resides in our body and gets us pregnant. What follows next is the confusion, if you ought to deliver the child or let it bleed through the vagina for a month or so? Yes, that is what happens when a woman aborts the child not always though. As per this website, a woman may bleed up to a month and this is not even listed in serious side effects! I find this ridiculous; can a man imagine himself bleeding from his penis for a month for not accepting a child? I doubt.  Some of you male readers may stop reading at this point. Have you smelled the abortion blood? If you have not, maybe you should, just to get a feel how your woman who went through the trauma of the child that she could not accept. Ah well, what do you know, some of the writers even call us the child vending machines.

Abortion may have some serious physical side effects and some severe emotional side effects as well. I come from a Punjabi family, where lands and farms have very special meaning. I am much loved, very much spoiled however I wouldn’t deny how the families do need a son. I love my brother much, but I know my mom aborted too. One time, she aborted a son, because my parents were not ready. I do think, it was the right decision, but because of abortion, my mom developed cysts and had to remove her uterus during menopause days. We are a happy family today, but my mom did have some depressing phases, I cannot say for sure if it all happened because of abortion but it happened and she would share how she didn’t want to abort. One of my aunts aborted a girl child and she saw the child. She pledged not to try no more and she did not care to have a son. She has two lovely daughters and she is happy today.

I read someone’s comment on Prashanth’s post that, these days abortion is safe. How much ever safe, abortion be, it does affect the woman in question. Side effects can never be ignored. Some women may even develop suicidal tendencies and men do not think twice before labelling it as atrocious behaviour. As a man, you need to understand, woman’s body, emotionally and physically meant to reproduce, thus when she kills her child, she can feel how a part of her too died. You are not only asking your woman to kill the child, but also giving her a slow death and no I am not adding too many emotions to this post!

Now, if I look at it from a different perspective. I know a couple, who got pregnant. They were not planning, yet, they got pregnant. They unfortunately had muted the television when those mental advertisers were screaming condom conDOM CONDOM! She came and told everyone at work. She said, she isn’t ready, but they told the parents and thus they have to give birth! Well, what’s the point? Tomorrow, you might as well tell the child, we did not care to have you, but your grandparents insisted. Believe me, it affects the child! I have seen it happening how children get emotional about the whole thing and go in a denial. Another thing, you are not ready to be parents. You know when you are not. Thus better to let go, than to make that child and your family suffer. Men tend to dump the responsibilities on women, you do when you ask the woman to abort than taking responsibility of the act and the child. But, in some cases, even if it’s a financial issue, it’s better to not have the child, if you cannot do justice to his/her life.

I am completely against abortion, its best to take precaution and play it safe! However, do not dump the responsibility on women. The contraceptive pills have hundred side effects and you are only playing with fire. Condoms are the most effective way to prohibit un-necessary pregnancies. You want to enjoy the act, enjoy responsibly or else they may be baking some apple pies down the corner, you better have those and mind your own business!



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Cheers...!!!!!

Thanks a ton Chintan and to all of you who read this and truly appreciated this..!!!
God bless all of yo and have a lovely Weekend ahead...!!!

loads of love,
Superrrnickkk..!!! 

19 comments:

  1. yesssss.........its best to take precaution and play it safe!

    Buttttttt...are only men responsible for abortion????

    i think, at times even women force their male partner to go for abortion for certain reasons....

    BTW, as usual a well written post by you Chintan.

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  2. so am I, I wrote a complete NO to that post. I dont know why Prashant agreed to that lady and said destiny is not in our hands. It's the worst decision someone can take in their life. I mean how can you compare a life with money..

    Can someone die if appropriate amount of money will be given to his/her family. I think those people who aborted their child just because of money should do this.

    Yes, of course you have written in a good cause, and I agree with you. Though I am still young even to marry but I can understand that one's life is priceless..

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  3. @Irfanuddin : welcome to the devil's workshop..!! am glad you liked it.. On behalf of Chintan.. I would say that she doesn blame men as the sole reason for or forcing abortion.. but she insists on playing it safe.. when by safe.. its safer to use a condom than try pills or any other method.. She asks men to take some initiative instead of pushing it all on woman. After all its both partners responsibility..!!!

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  4. Supernickk summed it up for me. And it is indeed a feminist take.

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  5. Hm, I'm not sure if this was sarcasm, or a real opinion. In my own opinion, I agree with absolutely nothing in this post. It's only my opinion though! Have a nice day :).

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  6. Pills are not good for women on a regular basis and if the man thinks that taking an ipill after every unprotected sex is fine, well no! It poses harm to the woman in the long run. Men just for the sake of having more pleasure or whtever do not use it and woman who are mostly submissive give in.
    But again sometimes women take a voluntary act of abortion.
    I am for abortion if it is as a result of rape, an accident or if the woman is not economically or psychologically stable to take care f a child. That is allowed in India right now. Legally.

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  7. If you wanna prevent diseases yes, if you wanna prevent pregnancy, just use the back door hahaha

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  8. Viva La Chintan! XD

    I think if we were not given the option to abort, we wouldn't even consider it. I remember someone once wrote: 'You can't ask a dog to not look at the bread you put beside it.'

    Out of sight, out of mind.

    Ah, the maladies of supposed freedom.

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  9. Good piece... I agree that abortion is really not an option, however you think of it... I mean the body has started preparations and then your pulling it off... I don't think that goes well with anyone on any other occasion, and similarly even this is no different.

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  10. @ Chintan's post.

    I'm against abortions too. Until it isn't really required. It sucks when people 'have fun' and then they aren't ready to face the consequences. They have to be prepared. And it's not like there aren't things can can be done for preventing pregnancies.

    @ Supernick:
    For once I thought you were quitting for a while :P
    If you do that, I'll kill you :D

    Take Care :)

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  11. Bang on the point Chintan. I am against abortion but then there are some exceptions to it. If the pregnancy is as a result of rape or an accident between two unmarried people and the woman is psyhologically, emotionally not prepared to have a baby and even physically too weak, then i support abortion. According to me rape is a heinous crime and the victiom is already int eh state of trauma and tries her best to live a normal life. A baby as a result of that will not only spoil her life but also do you think it will be fai on the foetus or the child? I dont think so. Again if the woman is emotionally psychologically and physically so unstable and not at all ready then it will harm both the child and the mother. If it poses a danger in the womans life then abortion.
    Our Indian law also allows abortion on these grounds. 1)Rape 2) Woman emotionally, psychologicallyor physically not fit.

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  12. @neatfit, eh? i do not mind what you said, i read you are a gym-freak.

    @red, a point that i did not highlight much, but thanks for elaborating on it. in few circumstances, yes, abortion is must, but just for the heck of it, not acceptable.

    @hasidic, ;) 69, magic number?

    @aasiyah, well, science, men, what not! too many options already. abortion in some cases, is a must though, thus i think we are still better with the option.

    @aathira, yeah the body gets confused, and the severe side effects, sigh!

    @Philo, if caught on time, pregnancy can be controlled but even those measures are not very healthy. health comes first, sex can take a *back seat*

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  13. @mr devil and miss chintan- i follow both of u and yes i have read the blunt blog and i agree with all the intro mr devil has given 2 chintan..!
    u r fab..!
    yes the post is true..!
    abortion sucks and it sucks to the core..!
    woman..! *sarcastic laugh*
    i bleed for 7 days in a month
    i will bleed when the first time i have an intercourse
    i will go through labor pains the most painful pain known to mankind
    and then i will bleed again for 40 days
    if something goes wrong eg- miscarriage or abortion- i will bleed again
    and after menopause- i will be depressed..!
    so can any guy tell me what do you do??
    :/ this is gruesome..!
    and the post is awesome and no offense against to any guy


    but whoever goes for it or forces this
    you are a MURDERER>.! :(
    and thank you both of you for this post..! :)

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  14. @mr devil and miss chintan- i follow both of u and yes i have read the blunt blog and i agree with all the intro mr devil has given 2 chintan..!
    u r fab..!
    yes the post is true..!
    abortion sucks and it sucks to the core..!
    woman..! *sarcastic laugh*
    i bleed for 7 days in a month
    i will bleed when the first time i have an intercourse
    i will go through labor pains the most painful pain known to mankind
    and then i will bleed again for 40 days
    if something goes wrong eg- miscarriage or abortion- i will bleed again
    and after menopause- i will be depressed..!
    so can any guy tell me what do you do??
    :/ this is gruesome..!
    and the post is awesome and no offense against to any guy


    but whoever goes for it or forces this
    you are a MURDERER>.! :(
    and thank you both of you for this post..! :)

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  15. Its a great post Chintan. As usual, you've poured your heart out and spoken your mind. Its a difficult thing but you do it very well.

    On your post, yes its better be precautions all the time than finding a way to manage when it is all gone... They should know a simple proverb 'prevention is better than cure'. Yes I think it applies here...

    Regards,
    Anand
    Life's like that

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  16. for goodness sake, please use that fucking condom...
    abortion is murder...
    but again better murder before something is born than murder him/her emotionally the entire life for being unwanted...either way it is bad...that's why it is so imp to plan or play safe...

    Cheers!
    SUB
    http://khonjtheeternalsearch.blogspot.com/

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  17. Men unfortunately have the habit of blaming women for everything, including such a serious issue of unwanted pregnancies.

    Why resort to terminating a potential life when you can take the step to prevent it in the first place? About time men realised their responsibility as well.

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  18. yes..couldnt agree more,abortion is a murder,a sin and it deprives a child's right to life itself

    Good work Chintan :)

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